Last month, Dr Pola Singh, a 76-year-old advocate for healthy ageing, took centre stage at the Damansara Utama Methodist Church (DUMC) in Selangor to share his insights on how to “add life to years”. The inspiring session drew 150 seniors eager to learn how to age with vitality and joy.
A former director-general of the Maritime Institute of Malaysia, Pola delivered a talk that combined practical advice with personal stories, focusing on mental agility, nurturing relationships, and embracing the inevitable changes that come with age.
Accompanying him were his wife of 48 years, Rina Kaur; their daughter, Cheryl Kaur Pola; son-in-law, Datuk Chris Chan; and his elder sister, Piaro Kaur – fondly known as Didi – who, despite nearing 80, looks years younger. Their presence underscored one of Pola’s key messages: the importance of strong family bonds and mutual support in ageing well.
Often seen hiking the trails of Bukit Kiara, Pola embodies the message he preaches. In his talk, he centred his reflections on two simple but powerful words – gratitude and gratefulness.
“Be appreciative that you can come to this talk,” he told the audience. “Feel blessed that you are still mobile, still able to participate, and to meet others who share the same wish – to age healthily and joyfully.”
He reminded everyone that aches and pains are part of the shared reality of ageing – “a knee that’s sore, a shoulder that’s stiff, a joint that clicks.” Instead of complaining, he urged acceptance and adaptation.
“Think of exercise as a daily pill,” he said. “As important as eating and sleeping – except that this pill has no side effects!”
Pola also spoke candidly about the limits of wealth in old age.
“At this stage of life, money cannot buy back good health,” he said. “Your real savings account is your daily investment in your body, mind, and spirit.”
He encouraged seniors to stay active – not only by walking, but by incorporating strength, flexibility, and mental exercises into their routines.
“Use it or lose it!” he reminded them. “This applies to your whole body – and your brain too.”
Equally important, he said, is social engagement.
“We are social beings. Don’t isolate yourself. Talk to your neighbours, join a group, laugh often. Every smile adds life to your years.”
Pola did not shy away from addressing the realities of ageing – limited time, declining independence, memory lapses, and fragile health. But he balanced realism with optimism, urging his audience to respond with strength, grace, and humour.
Among his practical reminders were:
- Rebuild strained relationships by forgiving and letting go of pride.
- Stop accumulating and start giving – donate unused shoes, handbags, and clothes to those in need.
- Plan ahead by preparing a will and an Advance Care Plan, so loved ones know your wishes when you can no longer express them.
- He also emphasised healthy living habits: eat moderately, sleep sufficiently, practise intermittent fasting, and, above all, respect your body.
The highlight came when the familiar opening notes of the Bee Gees’ classic “Words” filled the hall. The lyrics appeared on screen, and soon everyone was on their feet, swaying and singing along.
“Words are all I have to take your heart away.”
It was the perfect ending – Pola’s words truly did take their hearts away.
